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I Got Really Drunk and Slept With Him
Sunday Jul 02, 2006.
By econfidant
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I got really drunk and did something I've never done on a first date...I slept with him. I really like this guy and am worried I ruined my chances for an actual relationship. Can this be salvaged?
First, don't be too hard on yourself—most of us have been in a similar situation! You acted on a strong attraction under the influence of a few too many drinks, and that's understandable. It sounds like you want this guy to know—and believe—that you are interested in more than casual sex. Before you assume that he perceives your actions in a certain way, keep in mind that he also chose to have sex on your first date. If he feels that sexual intimacy on a first date is a fine choice for him but reflects poorly on your character, he is probably not the most sensitive or evolved person. You don't mention if you've talked to him since your first date. The best way that you can let him know that you are more looking for more than sex is to call him and tell him that. If you haven't yet, call him...but only once. Say you enjoyed meeting him and that you'd like to hear from him again and then leave it at that. If he calls you back, great – you both will have the chance to see if your mutual attraction can develop into something else; if he doesn't, at least you'll have made the effort. Whether or not he calls you back will tell you what kind of man he is—by having the courage to make the call you show that you are confident and mature, two very attractive qualities.
Good luck,
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