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I Come Off as an Average Joe
Monday Jun 26, 2006.
By econfidant
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I'm pretty confident and think I have a lot to offer, but I can come off as an average Joe...How can I make a great first impression on women so they want to get to know me better?
It's great that you have so much confidence – women love it! You are right: the trick is to get women interested in the first place. Take the initiative in starting a conversation. Women like it when someone notices a small, unique detail about them: “You have a great laugh,” for example. You want to be careful here, and make sure that the unique detail you select won't insult them (we're all a little insecure about some things). Don't overthink it, but mull it over for a few minutes before letting the remark fly out of your mouth. Paying her attention will give you her attention. Then, if you can keep a good conversation going, you'll stand out. Ask her questions about herself. You won't be considered an average Joe if you let your personality shine through in your banter. If you're passionate about Jazz, say so. If you love Sudoku, don't worry when people call you a nerd – take the title and run with it. This may sound cheesy, but women love to be swept off their feet by a great dancer. Dancing is an ideal activity because you'll have five minutes of her undivided attention. At a wedding or a formal event, the cute, single bridesmaid would rather spend her time on the dance floor with a cute guy than standing around awkwardly, hoping the DJ would pack it up and go home. So consider taking a dance class – swing, tango, salsa, waltz, etc. Also, the classes attract lots of women and you may even impress some ladies there. Same goes with sports teams which usually include regular happy hours and post-game parties. Ongoing teams or classes mean you won't have to worry as much about making a stellar first impression. These women will have the opportunity to be around you more often, can get to know you better, and see your confidence in action. Get involved with a charitable organization, especially one that has lots of women around your age, like a volunteer group or committee to organize an event. There are definitely women out there who will be interested in you, and think you're way above average. Keep up the confidence, and you'll have dates in no time.
Good luck,
Have a question about your one-true-love or latest fling that you just can't share with your friends? Rachel Begelman and Sarna Lee founded econfidant.com to give you the smart, one-on-one advice you need. You can ask that single pressing question or sign up to ask unlimited questions. Read more about econfidant. Have a question for econfidant.com? Ask it here...they'll answer one question from a Centerstage reader each week.
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