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Dear Consultant,

~Peaches

How odd! I recently attempted to conduct a survey of every guy in the world, but they all they were too busy to answer. Except Matthew McConaughey, who said, "Time is on my side, man. Yes it IS!" Then he went windsurfing.

Not to do too much "Sex and the City" channeling, but the phrase "he's just not that into you" keeps coming to mind. Sending an email or a text takes two minutes and unless this guy is an on-call brain surgeon or Justin Timberlake's mustache stylist, there's no reason for him to be blowing you off, besides the fact that you're not a priority for him. And that's not to say he doesn't like you at all, but that he's not willing to invest as much energy as you are in getting to know him.

Dating is based on reciprocity, mutual interest and staving off the terrible loneliness of human existence. Delete the email, Peaches. Or, if you can't quite pull the trigger, don't delete it but don't get your hopes up. Maintaining a "let's see what happens" attitude is much more alluring and dignified than worrying about why he's not getting back to you, or even worse, showing up at his favorite Pilates class four nights a week in hopes that you'll "run into him."

Dating is a masochistic enough process as it is, so why waste your time on someone who's not into you? Your time is much better wasted on things like catching up on "Gossip Girl," learning new anagrams for your name (Annual Yelp! A Palely Nun!) or eating some pretty good guacamole. Now ditch this dude and get back in the game.